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Blogging is Narcissistic (Except When It’s Not)

One of the things that’s becoming more and more common is that certain critics are claiming that we’re becoming more and more of a narcissistic society with our constant sharing of things on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, blogs, and so on.

I don’t know if I observation really holds water or not – rarely are things black and white, so I’m sure it’s true in some cases – but I’ve never really considered blogging in and of itself of be narcissistic.

This isn’t to say it can’t be, but I don’t think that it – as a medium – is meant to feed that particular aspect of the human condition.

Blogging is Narcissistic…

I mean, I get it. The argument goes something like this:

  1. Narcissism is excessive or erotic interest in oneself
  2. Blogging involves talking about oneself
  3. Therefore, blogging is narcissistic

And, like I said earlier, rarely are things black and white, but I don’t believe that the majority of bloggers are out to serve some level of self-involvement. Instead, I think that they are sharing their content in order to either help one other or to get feedback from others on any given set of circumstances.


So what’s the point of bringing all of this up?

What You Have To Say Matters

In short, I’m one of those idealistic people that believes everyone has something to say regardless of how good or how poor of a writer they are.

We’ve all got our beliefs, our ideas, and our things that we want to share with others, which is why I love building things on the largest publishing platform on the planet. Simply put, it helps people share whatever it is they have to share.

And even though it may not be of interest to me, it’s of interest to others, and that matters.

Share Others Work

The aspect of blogging is that I – as well as you – know plenty of people who manage blogs that do nothing but share and/or promote other peoples work. On top of that, there’s nothing wrong with promoting said work on your own blog to help evangelize someone else’s work.

But at the end of the day, it’s your blog and you’re free to do whatever it is what you’re want to do with it; however, I do believe that we should help share other people’s work. That’s my two cents.

…Except When It Is

Ultimately, my point is that for those of you who are blogging to keep at it and keep sharing. The majority of us love to see what it is that you’re working on, and we love to get into the conversation when possible.

But know that blogging can be as narcissistic as you make it. Don’t listen to whatever anyone else is saying. Write on – whatever it’s about – as we, or someone, do want to hear what you have to share.


  1. Blessing Mpofu

    So true. There’s potential for narcism on any medium. Whether in presence or absence of blogs and other platforms narcism will always find an expression.

    I like the encouragement to forget the “experts” in such regards and just be true to our grind….

  2. Zack

    Do you have any examples of people claiming that “blogging is narcissistic”? I would be interested in reading a well written piece that argues this point.

    • Tom McFarlin

      Honestly, I was going to provide you a set of links of articles that I had bookmarked in the past, but Google is literally filled with articles. Some are more “professional” and some are more op-ed.

      But just look through these results and you’ll see exactly what I’m talking about.

  3. Bruce Gerencser

    I tend to think most of us are a bit narcissistic. As a writer, I write about my life and personal experiences. I want people to read what I write.

    I agree with your view of everyone having a voice. I try to give readers of my blog an opportunity to write a guest post. I think is important for them to lend their voice to the discussion. Most readers will never write a guest post, thinking they have nothing of value to say.

    • Tom McFarlin

      I want people to read what I write.

      If that’s the definition with which you work, then you and I are complete agreement. I don’t think people want to write books, articles, essays, or blogs in a void, you know? But word as such a negative connotation and is usually tied to people wanting to feed their own ego in a way that makes them believe they’re superior to others.

      I disagree with that particular definition, though.

      I try to give readers of my blog an opportunity to write a guest post. I think is important for them to lend their voice to the discussion. Most readers will never write a guest post, thinking they have nothing of value to say.

      Exactly! And people do have good stuff to say even if it’s not for everyone.

      Not everything I write here works for others. I know that, others know that, and that’s perfectly fine. No one writes for everyone – at least that I know of ;).

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